“Life is not about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.”
George Bernard Shaw, thank you for these wise words that just recently struck my mind, body and soul.
To be honest, I have come across this quote many times before. But not until yesterday did I really connect with the meaning behind these words, carefully placed in this order. Throughout the past two years, I can feel confident in saying that I really hit the beginning of the rest of my life. It was the time when I discovered the motivation and passion inside me to go in the direction of my dreams. Although my dreams and goals at the time were hazy, I did things that would either help Number 1: Make me a more disciplined person or Number 2: Make my future self be proud
With that being said, I stopped viewing my life as a timeline with certain time stamps that needed to be met, but rather I focused on what kind of person I wanted to be and how to execute it everyday. Around this time circa 2014, I had just come home from living 4 months abroad in Europe immediately after graduating with my bachelors at a 4-year university (learning who knows what). So it’s safe to say that it was time to start figuring out what I wanted to do in my life. What would I be striving for everyday that would make both my life and the life of others worthwhile? I took a deep look into myself and narrowed down to four things that I was passionate about: Nurturing others, Skin care, Writing and Traveling. #HappinessWords
- Nurturing = care for and encourage the growth or development of
- Skin care = is the range of practices that support skin integrity including nutrition, avoidance of excessive sun exposure, and appropriate use of emollients
- Writing = A writer is a person who uses written words in various styles and techniques to communicate their ideas
- Travel = going to different places instead of staying in one place
Written out in front of me, I had these four words that equated to my happiness. So what kind of career and life can I create for myself that would consist of these things and at the same time provide a rewarding satisfaction. I did my research. My research led me to the discovery of the Physician Assistant career. Well that takes up one of my happiness words – Nurture. Additional research led me to realize that there was a prominent field of physician assistants that specialized in Dermatology. There goes my second happiness word – Skin care. 2 out of 4 things for my job pick was a great start. Now my third and fourth happiness word – Writing and Traveling. While these two of my happiness words are not necessarily a big part of my chosen career field, they have proven to play a huge part of my life. Which means that it is 100% up to me to continue to keep both of these things present and very existent. In addition to your career, it is important to have hobbies and certain characteristics of life that will contribute to your happiness and vision.
So I ask myself – What kind of life do I wish to have?
I wish for a life where I am allowed to help other individuals reach the best possible version of themselves, mentally and physically. To nurture someone that is not at their optimal self. To encourage, to provide, to protect. At the same time I wish to lead a life to help others relinquish the fear of having inadequate skin. I wish to help others gain back the innate confidence that society’s expectations destroys. I wish to travel. And I wish to write.
My next question – What do I have to do to get there?
Get a bachelor degree. Take more classes. Get good grades. Work in a healthcare setting for 2000+ hours. Shadow health care practitioners. Go on medical brigades. Volunteer. More volunteer. Take the GRE. Apply to grad school. Get into grad school. Continually document your thoughts. Save money to travel. Wake up early. Create your plan. Be consistent. Stay curious. Stay focused. And most importantly don’t give up, against all odds.
Last question – Am I willing to put forth the work?
This is not something I can hesitate toward. If I am lucky enough to figure out what makes me happy and what I can claim as my purpose, I am taking full advantage of it. The hardest part is over. I know what kind of life I want. What kind of person I need to be. And how to get there. Life is not about stumbling into your future self. It’s about putting in the work and doing whatever it takes to create the BEST version of yourself, by yourself.
Over the past two years, I have taken baby steps one at a time. And looking back now, it amazes me to see my accomplishments clearly line up to support the future I see for myself.
Start within yourself, start with I.
- I wake up earlier now than I ever have in my life
- I have reached my 2000+ hours in a healthcare setting as a medical assistant
- I volunteer occasionally in Mexico at a free-health clinic
- I commute 80+ miles everyday
- I am on my 10th and final prerequisite for P.A. grad school application
- I have emphasized my passion in Dermatology and continually practice skin care routines for my patients
- I’ve taken my GRE
- I am currently working toward my Esthetician license
- I am booked for my medical mission trip in June to Panama
- I hosted two annual Thanksgiving Food Drives and fed 350+ individuals in the community each year
- I am a blogger for Elite Daily with 3 featured articles
- I continue to write for myself and my personal blog
- Traveling diaries are booked for 2017
It is as if, I have all the ingredients to make the version of myself that I would be proud of. I figured out this life hack in a step-by-step guide and only with continual dedication and work am I able to create it for myself. So don’t be fooled by the idea it will come to you if you wait for it. Don’t go out there looking for yourself, you must go out there and create yourself.
I challenge you to discover your Happiness Words and find your purpose.
Just think of it as a DIY project. #DoItYourself